Comments on: The Chaos Theory and Parental Alienation http://parentalalienationhurts.com/2009/12/the-chaos-theory-and-parental-alienation/ Parental Alienation Hurts. Official Blogs, Links, and Resources Mon, 09 Aug 2010 20:34:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jennifer http://parentalalienationhurts.com/2009/12/the-chaos-theory-and-parental-alienation/comment-page-1/#comment-2677 Jennifer Mon, 09 Aug 2010 20:34:18 +0000 http://parentalalienationhurts.com/?p=343#comment-2677 I am the noncustodial parent and mother of parental alienated Daughter. She has been away from me since the age of 2. She is fourteen and is now showing severe signs of this syndrome. For some strange reason she continues to call me twice a week and brags about her happiness and freedoms she has with her Father and Step mother. In this new found freedom I realize that all I will ever be is one voice to the "table of decisions" in her life right now until she decides to completely cut me out from her life. I am married and have a 9 year old son. Through out the years my husband and I have went through the courts (spending money we didn't have), wasted time and energy that could have been used on raising our son and strengthening our own marriage. Those sacrifices have left my own family weakened. I will no longer put my family or my own mental state to the forefront of a battle I know I have lost. The war is far from over. I love my daughter and long to be a mother to her but the reality is that day may never come. I have to focus on the wonderful blessings I have within my own family and continue to work hard to nurture and strengthen our family unit. Lest the war be won of the Entity that is devouring our families. I am the noncustodial parent and mother of parental alienated Daughter. She has been away from me since the age of 2. She is fourteen and is now showing severe signs of this syndrome. For some strange reason she continues to call me twice a week and brags about her happiness and freedoms she has with her Father and Step mother. In this new found freedom I realize that all I will ever be is one voice to the “table of decisions” in her life right now until she decides to completely cut me out from her life. I am married and have a 9 year old son. Through out the years my husband and I have went through the courts (spending money we didn’t have), wasted time and energy that could have been used on raising our son and strengthening our own marriage. Those sacrifices have left my own family weakened. I will no longer put my family or my own mental state to the forefront of a battle I know I have lost. The war is far from over. I love my daughter and long to be a mother to her but the reality is that day may never come. I have to focus on the wonderful blessings I have within my own family and continue to work hard to nurture and strengthen our family unit. Lest the war be won of the Entity that is devouring our families.

]]> By: Forever Mom http://parentalalienationhurts.com/2009/12/the-chaos-theory-and-parental-alienation/comment-page-1/#comment-1670 Forever Mom Thu, 14 Jan 2010 17:33:17 +0000 http://parentalalienationhurts.com/?p=343#comment-1670 Your opening line "The price that an alienated parent pays when leaving a harmful situation is often times a much higher one than is ever expected" couldn't be more true. I had no idea this kind of thing would happen when I made up my mind to leave my unhealthy marriage. I also agree with you when you question at what point does the child hold some responsibility for their actions. My son is ten and while I understand that his behavior started from his father, my son seems to get his kicks from hurting me. I find myself at my wits end often but am determined and will never give up. Good luck to you and to all of us in this horrible situation :) Your opening line “The price that an alienated parent pays when leaving a harmful situation is often times a much higher one than is ever expected” couldn’t be more true. I had no idea this kind of thing would happen when I made up my mind to leave my unhealthy marriage.

I also agree with you when you question at what point does the child hold some responsibility for their actions. My son is ten and while I understand that his behavior started from his father, my son seems to get his kicks from hurting me.

I find myself at my wits end often but am determined and will never give up. Good luck to you and to all of us in this horrible situation :)

]]> By: Lesley http://parentalalienationhurts.com/2009/12/the-chaos-theory-and-parental-alienation/comment-page-1/#comment-1657 Lesley Thu, 17 Dec 2009 15:59:40 +0000 http://parentalalienationhurts.com/?p=343#comment-1657 Excellent article. I couldn't have put it better and I have lived (and am still living) the hellish aftermath of a selfish, angry, violent, alcoholic husband who couldn't bear the idea of me leaving him and trying to get help. He made it his life's work to destroy the relationship I had with my children. He's now dead but the hell lives on - possibly to be passed down as a little legacy to our descendants. Charming. Excellent article. I couldn’t have put it better and I have lived (and am still living) the hellish aftermath of a selfish, angry, violent, alcoholic husband who couldn’t bear the idea of me leaving him and trying to get help. He made it his life’s work to destroy the relationship I had with my children. He’s now dead but the hell lives on – possibly to be passed down as a little legacy to our descendants. Charming.

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