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Parental Alienation: When Parents Hurt

chrissy — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 17:06:27 +0000

Parent Coach Radio is pleased to announce Dr. Joshua Coleman as our special guest for Thursday Feb 25th. Dr Coleman is the author of ”When Parents Hurt”. This show will focus on all areas of parental alienation and parental estrangement. Dr Coleman would like to share strategies on dealing with this issue and strategies on reconnecting with the estranged children. Dr Coleman has been interviewed on national media outlets such as the The Today Show and Good Morning America talking about parental alienation. Feel free to call in with questions for Dr. Coleman

This is featured show and will begin at 9:30 pm EST this week.

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Dr.Joshua Coleman Bio

Dr. Joshua Coleman is Co-Chair of the Council on Contemporary Families and is a psychologist with a private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area.

He has been a frequent guest on the Today Show, NPR, and The BBC, and has also been featured on Sesame Street, 20/20, Good Morning America, America Online Coaches, PBS Life Part 2, and numerous news programs for FOX, ABC, CNN, and NBC television. His advice has appeared in The New York Times, The Times of London, Fortune, Newsweek, The Chicago Tribune, Slate, Psychology Today, U.S. World and News Report, Parenting Magazine and many others.

He has served on the clinical faculties of The University of California at San Francisco, The Wright Institute Graduate School of Psychology, and the San Francisco Psychotherapy Research Group.

He is the author of numerous articles and chapters and has written four books: The Marriage Makeover: Finding Happiness in Imperfect Harmony (St. Martin’s Press); The Lazy Husband: How to Get Men to Do More Parenting and Housework (St. Martin’s Press); When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don’t Get Along (HarperCollins); and Married with Twins: Life, Love and the Pursuit of Marital Harmony. His books have been translated into Chinese, Croatian, and Korean, and are also available in the U.S., U.K., Canada, and Australia.

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Non Custodial Mothers Day October 28

chrissy — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 18:40:16 +0000

Today is Non Custodial Mothers Day. You will not find this on any calendar or even really talked about unless you are going through this yourself. This is a day that no one wants to celebrate but the facts are there are many parents that are ripped out of their child’s life. I support both parents but I will say this all cases are unique. In various cases where moms are non custodial it is not by choice but by force. Abuse does happen in homes and some stories are fabricated but good mothers are losing their children to abusive spouses.

I understand all too well from my past that these situations happen. We are at a loss on how to overcome the pain and obstacles always in the way to reunification. Today is not a day we want to celebrate but is a solid start to awareness. You are not alone and many mothers are going through this. We were crushed on every side to get out of the relationship and then made out to be the “abuser”.

In no way am I saying that this is truth in all cases and I support fathers as well, but I don’t support any abusive behavior. I always find it odd that we have feminists that are very detailed on their stance about abuse. I’m often in awe of their view that parental alienation does not exist, just because one case has a certain outcome does not mean every case is the same way. Today is a day to start a conversation with someone who does not know about alienation. Just start with “Today is Non Custodial Mother’s Day”

I have written a poem that i would like to share

A Mom Without Her Children

Her children are the first thought

in the morning and the last thought before bed

She lives on the memories that are embed in her head

She smiles at the thought of their tiny fingers wrapped around her hand

The presious time they spent together

The time she thought would last forever

The questions come lurking in her mind

Did they think of me today or am I lost back in time

The day they were born was a gift from above

She has given them unconditional love

Time goes on she sits and she waits

for some sort of justice to take shape

she worries as a mother does everyday praying everything is ok

She worries about her childrens pain

Somedays the world makes her hold her head down in shame

She watches other mothers with their children

wishing to be with her own

hoping it’s not so far away that they are already grown

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The Parentectomy Author Joins me Tonight Live from Austria

chrissy — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 22:09:30 +0000

I was honored to do a book review for “The Parentectomy” at the request of the author, Kimber Adams. This book was a great source of acknowledgement for Parental Alienation and the stages that transpire in these situations. It was validating to know that we are not alone and this battle can be won in time.

Parenal Alienation Hurts and Get Your Justice Live bring you Kimber Adams the author of The Parentectomy.

Tonight we will discuss the battle that many parents have faced and are facing to continue being in their children’s lives.

Parentectomy, the destruction of a child’s relationship with one of their parents, often through the use of parental alienation, which is the discussion through this resource by Kimber Adams. We will hear a true account of how this author was reunified with her son and two daughters and how they all walked away from her youngest daughter’s graduation together.

This story is a true account with an emphasis on what worked for this mother for a positive outcome. Find out what caused the children to see through the lies and deceit which prompted this happy ending. Remember there is always hope as we examine this path. Our guest author will be calling in from Austria to join us live tonight.

Tune in live on Get Your Justice Live at 8PM EST

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In a “winner takes all” culture, children caught in divorce have become the grand prize. Parents are only human, but when they indulge in their own unhealthy feelings and make a deliberate attempt to win a child’s loyalty, they are perpetrators of bond abuse, also known as parental alienation. Taking a rigid stance for custody in divorce often leads to the unspeakable. The Parentectomy is an exposé of the epidemic known as Parental Alienation Syndrome.

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Special Guest Kim Pressley-Herrick from Coloring Away Pain

chrissy — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 04:12:16 +0000

Join me as I host Get Your Justice Live on Thursday Night at 8pm est with special Guest Kimberly Pressley from Coloring Away Pain. I’m pleased to announce a new resource for Parental Alienation for your children/grandchild ren. This is a great opportunity to share this information with your child’s school or therapist or even purchase one for your child. For more information on this new resource join us at 8 pm EST on Thursday September 17Th.

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Kimberly Pressley-Herrick is the founder of Coloring Away Pain and The Foundation for Coloring Away Pain. Kimberly is a native South Floridian, a single mother of three with a passion for writing and helping others. Kimberly’s children share in the desire to help others and are responsible for the art work featured on our line of note cards.

Coloring Away Pain is dedicated to bringing playful resources to children dealing with difficult life situations. By addressing issues such as bullying, death of a loved one, a deployed parent, or a natural disaster through the use of animal characters and easily digested stories, children often are able to open up and express themselves. The coloring books each encourage a child to explore a subject with the animal characters, answer thought provoking questions, and draw freely in addition to the standard coloring activities. Coloring Away Pain originally began in response to the Hurricane Katrina disaster. Now, Coloring Away Pain has over 15 titles in publication and has been translated into multiple languages.

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Parental Alienation: A War of Words

chrissy — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 00:18:06 +0000

Parental Alienation is almost similar to the movie War of the Worlds except the concept seems to portray the title War of the Words. Does one child ever fully recover from the words used to bring hate and anger? Can they move past the destruction, false memories, betrayal, and systematic behavior? The alienating parent has destroyed any belief of having a mentally healthy child. The AP will not realize because in most cases they have a mental issues themselves.
A child goes through strong emotions and deals with the circumstances in various ways. A number of adolescents rebel and act out in vicious behavior while others silently suppress the issues. A parent’s first reaction is to “explain” who they really are to the child. During this time the child is trying to put pieces together of fact from fiction.
The interaction with a child/parent becomes a war of words. The parent defending their actions and bringing truth while the child has trouble understanding the factors between the parents. There is a war of words between the parents, children, and extended family.
The tool used in alienation is words and the speech patterns that impose fear into the children. Children receive praise for bad behavior towards the targeted parent. Some family units allow the children to do whatever they want so they don’t want visit or live with TP because there is rules.
The dysfunctional thinking process that the parent has influences the child to believe their side of the story. The time comes when the child’s thinking process is paralyzed and they feed off the alienating parent’s emotion. Mom/Dad is mad at me if I spend time with the other parent. Children feel the emotion and look for reactions so they know how to react.
The family unit then gets introduced to the judicial system. The targeted parent goes in thinking that they will receive justice. It is then that the war of words starts in the courtroom and we realize that there is no justice. It is an emotion that leads to losing all hope, for example if we watched a family member get murdered in front of us and we watched them get away with it and receive no punishment. This is the feeling many parents walk out of court feeling… baffled.
The war of the words damage many people but in the end the children suffer.

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Help for Mothers in Michigan

chrissy — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 19:14:12 +0000

You are not alone

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Moms of Michigan Providing an outreach for Non Custodial Mothers in Michigan

Michigan- July 12, 2009- Moms of Michigan is a site for non custodial mothers to reach out for support, political action, and education.

Moms of Michigan is dedicated to helping mothers without custody, step mothers and grandmothers. We pledge to continue to support and educate mothers without custody and the general public to bring awareness about these circumstances that break the bonds between a child and their mother.

We are much more than a support system but also a dedicated community of mothers who are seeking reform in our judicial system. We are coming together to enlighten medical professionals, attorneys, CPS, family court systems, and the education system about the factors surrounding non custodial parents.

Moms of Michigan is affiliated with The National Association of Non-Custodial Moms, Inc. (NANCM) Here is your quote from Celeste Chappell-Bates, Executive Vice President/Chief Operating Officer of the National Association of Noncustodial Mothers, Inc. (NANCM). :-)

“While there has been a relatively recent (and rightful) equalization in custody determination, there are too few capable support systems in place to help women adjust to their resulting less-active parenting role, or help them weather the stigma that current society places on noncustodial mothers. Noncustodial mothers are not always the monsters, drug addicts, or uncaring parents that most people immediately assume they are; they are still fit and loving regardless of their noncustodial status.

Hopefully the Michigan Mothers that find this website find friendships and camaraderie with other noncustodial mothers find resources to help them learn that that they are NOT alone, and help them find peace with their noncustodial status.

NANCM is happy to be affiliated with Moms of Michigan and is excited about this website debut!”
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For more information on Moms of Michigan or to schedule an interview with Christina Chrzanowski , please call 989-569-3143 or email info@momsofmichigan.org

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Build bridges to resume contact

chrissy — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 03:40:03 +0000

I had the chance to read this article and agree with some of the statements but not all. Yes, one must accept the fact that the ex daughter in law will not see her son in the same fashion. If the situation can be as easy as a lunch outing that is great. Most of the parents and grandparents do not have it so easy. The deadly words came out here “At one point, I told the mother that it wasn’t right that she not let the child see his father and the boy’s time with me ended – in fact – she called the police.”

Parents that behave this way only cooperate with others who have the same vision. The statement made that parents really believe this is in the best interest of the child also does not follow the severe guidelines of Parental Alienation. A great number of parents who participate in withholding a child from a fit parent pursue revenge. The child becomes the trophy in a battle of pain and anguish. The family unit is abandoned to a higher calling of one person’s action of self worth. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and in some cases siblings will be left holding their hands in the air asking why is this happening?

What is the opinion of the public on this?

Barbara Burrows, Special to The Windsor Star

Published: Thursday, May 14, 2009

Dear Barbara: I’ve been following the discussion on PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome) and would like to tell you about my son’s child – who is forbidden access to his father by the mother – a women my son was never married to. I know of others with similar situations.

For awhile, I was on good terms with the mother who allowed the boy to come to spend two days/week with me and he had a good relationship with me and my daughter.

My son is a good person, gainfully employed, pays child support and has friends. It breaks our hearts that he can’t see his son.

At one point, I told the mother that it wasn’t right that she not let the child see his father and the boy’s time with me ended – in fact – she called the police.

My husband and I have sent e-mails, cards for special occasions etc. – but there is no response at all.

There are a whole group of children who are suffering because one parent has control and keeps the child from the other. Grandparents have no rights in Ontario.

I realize that this is not a black and white issue, but as desperate as the parents are, it is the children who need help.

Have you any suggestions?

Dear Grandmother: You must be feeling very helpless.

What comes to my mind is that there was a time that your grandson’s mother felt comfortable enough to let you spend time with him.

My thinking is that you may be able to rekindle that positive connection if you can figure out how you were able to establish it in the first place. My guess is that you somehow were able to put aside your hurt, critical feeling and likely anger towards the boy’s mother and maintain some neutral, low-key civility.

Mothers are usually intensely protective of their children and this is where situations can get out of hand. For some reason, they become extra sensitive and perceive that the father is a negative influence.

I suppose it is possible that parents intentionally withhold the children to punish the other, but my experience has been the withholding parent truly believes it is in the child’s best interest – in fact – that the child needs protecting from something in the other parent. This is often a distortion – but the overprotective parent cannot see it.

This mother will never see your son as you do – simply accept that – and see what you might need to do to secure her trust so that you may have an opportunity to continue to build a relationship with the boy.

I believe you will have to call her directly and say you are missing the boy very much and ask if you could please come and talk with her.

You need to find a way to find out what has upset her and see how this can be resolved so you can resume your relationship with this child. Perhaps inviting her out for lunch or coffee – into neutral territory might help the discussion.

If you can build a bridge to your family, the chances of your son connecting with his son will be much greater.

Barbara Burrows is a psychotherapist who works with a group of professional advisers to address the questions sent to her by concerned parents. Her column appears Thursdays. Questions or comments can be sent to barbaraburrows@cogeco.ca. Visit her website www.barbaraburrows.com

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Dr. Michael Bone releases videos on You Tube

chrissy — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 03:31:26 +0000

I was looking for the latest news on parental alienation and came across these mini videos from Dr Bone. They educate on different aspects of parental alienation. They are short in length but filled with valuable infomation to educate others. Below are three of many released that I found on his site on you tube.

Dr Bone has a blog that can be found at http://jmichaelbone.blogspot.com/

For more information on Dr Bone visit his site http://www.jmichaelbone.com/

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A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parents Introduction of Parental Alienation

chrissy — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 17:38:46 +0000

I have had a chance to review this book titled A Family’s Heartbreak. The book goes far beyond a family broken by parental alienation; it adds clarity on all realms of parental alienation. It includes the mental and legal aspects associated with the dynamics that families suffer from. It outlines the behavior of an alienating parent while displaying the reasons alienating behavior might manifest in a relationship.

A Family’s Heartbreak shows the breakdown of a parent child relationship that was once healthy. I was intrigued by the element of the story in which his other son was caught in the cross fire with his alienator but was not a participant of the alienation. He truly wanted BOTH parents. In the end it is vile for a parent to pass down their hatred to their child. The book demonstrates step by step from the beginning on the tactics that an alienator uses to “become one” with the child.

I would advise parent’s to encourage their local libraries to include this educational reference to their collection. In my personal opinion this book helped to me to understand underlining factors due to alienation. I would personally ask everyone to thank Mike Jeffries and Dr. Joel Davies for contributing this book to help and educate others on this difficult subject.

This book is both educational for parents, mental, and judicial communities. This book is a winner to have on ANY bookshelf. The book lives up to the title “A Families Heartbreak”.

	A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, is the true story of one parent’s struggle to maintain a normal, loving relationship with his young son in the face of overwhelming odds. From the emotionally devastating actions of the child’s other parent, to a court system and mental health community ill-equipped to deal with a destructive family dynamic, A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation is both an education in parental alienation and an eye opening experience for parents who don’t believe this could happen to them.

Included are reviews from Dr. Warshak and Dr. Bone

“A provocative and compelling account of the destruction of a father-son relationship and the legal system’s complicity in the process. Jeffries pulls back the curtain on the tragedy of a child whose love turns to contempt as he takes sides in his parents’ divorce. Sure to be an eye-opener for parents and professionals alike.”
–Richard A. Warshak, Ph.D, Author of Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond From a Vindictive Ex

“Mike Jeffries has used the trauma and tragedy of his personal nightmare to illuminate how what would seem unbelievable can actually occur. From the theoretical concepts of parental alienation to its most excruciating details, his story vividly illustrates how far a close parent-child relationship can fall. This book is a must read for anyone who suspects that parental alienation is working its way into his or her life.”
–Dr. J. Michael Bone, Clinical and Forensic Consultant on Parent Alienation

I’m including a link where Mike Jeffries was interviewed by Lary Holland and myself last week on the show Get Your Justice Live.

http://spotlight.getyourjusticelive.com/2009/04/02/parental-alienation-mike-jeffries-and-dr-amy-baker/

For more information about this book and to look over the blog that Mike Jeffries has included visit

http://www.afamilysheartbreak.com/

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Want Change Be a Part of it Tonight on Get Your Justice Live

chrissy — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 20:34:34 +0000

Tonight there is a special show on Get Your Justice Live-

We all want change in the laws and now we have the attention of the US Reps. It is your time to shine and help them get this law passed. If you can listen live download it anytime and do your part for children everywhere!

We are being joined by US REPRESENTATIVE PETE HOEKSTRA and WENDY WRIGHT of CONCERNED WOMEN FOR AMERICA. Wendy Wright is President of Concerned Women for America (CWA), the nation’s largest public policy women’s organization. YOU DON’T WANT TO MISS THIS EXCITING SHOW.
Looking forward to hearing to the show! Please alert your membership of this as soon as possible as well.

US REPRESENTATIVE PETE HOEKSTRA TO BE ON GET YOUR JUSTICE LIVE TONIGHT AT 8PM EST DISCUSSING PARENTAL RIGHTS AMENDMENT!

US REPRESENTATIVE PETE HOEKSTRA (R-MI) will be on Get Your Justice Live Tonight to discuss the soon to be reintroduced Constitutional Amendment to Protect Parental Rights. “Parental Rights Should be Respected and Protected by all,” states Lary Holland and the Congressman definitely supports that idea. He will be discussing why our Parental Rights need to be protected from both Domestic and Foreign Government Intrusion and what he needs from all of us to get the job done! Join in Live tonight! Circulate this to your networks immediately and bring religious, educational, and other critical parental rights organizations together under one Constitutional Amendment!

We are also being joined by Wendy Wright of CWA. Wendy Wright is President of Concerned Women for America (CWA), the nation’s largest public policy women’s organization. Miss Wright promotes legislation and international policies that are beneficial to women and families, briefs congressional and presidential staff on pro-family issues, and trains grassroots activists. She is frequently interviewed in national media on moral, social and political issues. Miss Wright was named among “The 100 Most Powerful Women of Washington” in 2006 by the Washingtonian Magazine. The National Pro-Life Religious Council awarded Wendy for her “continuous leadership in the cause of life.”

Tonight Live at 8PM EST! See Call in information below to talk or listen.

Get Your Justice Live Every Wednesday and Sunday Night at 8PM

Get Your Justice Live (TM) is an interactive internet talk radio show that focuses on reforming our government, with an often special focus on the anti-family courts within the United States. GET YOUR JUSTICE LIVE EVERY WEDNESDAY and SUNDAY Night (8:00pm EST).
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Together our voices do count. Be sure to join in during our live broadcasts and become a part of real change. We are leading the way for others to participate fully in the governmental decisions that affect our children, our privacy, and our lives.

Thank you for making Get Your Justice Live the most talked about community for your rights and liberties to be parent.

I know together we can make a difference for our children and their children, but it starts with being a good citizen. Being a good Citizen starts with engaging in the discussion of government policies affecting our well-being on a daily basis. That is what we are doing, engaging in the discussion every day! Spread the word.

Sincerely,

Lary Holland
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